Lisa's baby shower

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Lisa Cheng is now a mom! She gave birth to a healthy baby boy and we went to the baby shower after work yesterday. His name is Ethan (as in Ethan Hawk) and there were about 20 of us old ex-classmates there for the baby shower at her home. It’s a strange feeling, being old…it’s just not that long ago that we were just 17 years old and having fun in high school. Fast forward to a decade later and we’re all now 27 and life just isn’t that simple anymore.

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This is a rather blurry photo taken of the Class of ’97. I felt a little envious at some of the married couples with kids. I really want to find someone nice to settle down with and have little ones running about and all that. I won’t go out drinking Saturdays but wake up early on Monday to bring the kids to McDonald’s or to their grandparents. I thought that was dull and boring just a couple of years ago, but I swear to God, sometimes I want that kind of life so badly. Oh well…

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31 thoughts on “Lisa's baby shower

  1. I hear ya on that, although I try not to admit it to my friends. LOL, I rather be the kid I guess – can you see me as a mom? Tattooed, hyperactive, ADHD med dependent mom? I think not!!!!

  2. Dude, what did you guys do? Here in the states, baby shower is basically a “charity” event to buy toys for the baby and pitch in money to set up a fixed deposit account for the baby’s college fund. Some parent do take baby shower to the next level..making the bank.

  3. Beside pollen that Im allergy to, I shall add ‘kid’ in my list too.
    I admire you ppl who actually have THAT idea.
    Kian loves kid, and the whole idea of family. ermmm…

  4. Hello all. I am in Sarikei now on an impromptu trip. I shall be staying the night and drive back at 4 am tomorrow. Cheers!

  5. Only when you’re good and ready, Huai Bin. It’s a full-time commitment and entails a lot of sacrifices. But it’s all worth it. Guess it all boils down to a matter of priorities and choices in ur lifestyle, career etc…! Many just plunge in and when the kids grow up, there will be the backlash…and hence, all kinds of problems arise. Btw, wassup in Sarikei? Seafood’s cheap there!

  6. i feel you.
    a few years ago, i wanted to squash any wailing toddler i see under the soles of my feet. now i wanna pick them up.
    so yeah, growing up kinda does funny stuff to people doesn’t it?

  7. huai bin u are so fat now!!!!!and dark also hehe. last time used to read u till ur blogs becomes a mess..
    but im glad ur doing ok and ur happy is the most important thing.
    happy for u :]
    takecare dude

  8. It’s good to have that thought. But then make sure u assist your future wife with the task of taking care the baby.
    Some of my fren married at very young age and not ready for commitment till commented it’s troublesome to look after their kids. I mean it’s best not to make such comment as it’s really sad to hear such phrase from a mum. Hopefully only that minority are like that who prefer sleeping than jaga kidS? :D

  9. It’s good to have that thought. But then make sure u assist your future wife with the task of taking care the baby.
    Some of my fren married at very young age and not ready for commitment till commented it’s troublesome to look after their kids. I mean it’s best not to make such comment as it’s really sad to hear such phrase from a mum. Hopefully only that minority are like that

  10. You are not the only one. Often I think about having a wife and family of my own even, though I’m just a young guy. I consider myself a little too selfish of a person for that right now. I cant even find enough time for myself.
    Eh shifting mentalities…

  11. You are not the only one. Often I think about having a wife and family of my own even, though I’m just a young guy. I consider myself a little too selfish of a person for that right now. I cant even find enough time for myself.
    Eh shifting mentalities…

  12. Skwermy: Well, I don’t think I’ll make good father material by some other people’s standards either, being an ex drug user with a sordid history. I still want to get married and have kids though, and I think I can be a good father if I want to…
    *shrugs*
    It’ll be nice to try anyway. Someone told me marriage and kids is like a rite of passage…everyone has got to go through it at least once.
    Ash: Yeah, that’s what everyone tells me…but I’m concerned by biological clock is running out. I can practically FEEL it ticking. I’m 27 this year with a history of hypertension and liver/kidney problems. I don’t think I can wait that long. Thanks for the support though. :)
    e: Hmm…it’s about the same concept. We give ang pows to the mother of the child, which indirectly would go towards his/her welfare. You can do the same things with the money in the ang pow anyway, toys, baby formula, even put it in the bank. :)
    cynthia: I get a little annoyed at kids of a certain age too, the kind that throws temper tantrums. I’m not a big fan of the rebellious adolescents too. However, a bouncing baby boy/girl…now that’s appealing right? Soft and cuddly. :)
    How do you talk to Kian about the conflict of interest with the family and kids thing? I’m curious if and when I meet someone with different views to mine as to how to resolve the matter…
    suituapui: Yeah, my married friends have been telling me the same thing. Marriage is commitment like you wouldn’t believe and kids is sacrifice even the word agape can’t define. I think I’m not quite ready for the responsibilities that entails but I’ll like to try anyway. Perhaps I’ll turn out to be a good dad, and perhaps not, but I’ll never know until I try.
    I read your comment last night on a Pocket PC (hotel had WiFi) and went to check out the seafood. Went to the one with the most customers. It’s alright, I love the prawns steamed with egg. Very appetizing. Dinner cost us around RM 40 for two.
    essentric: Exactly! Jesus Christ, what’s happening to us? ;)
    I probably won’t be living the life I’m living now if I’m married with kids but I reckon it’ll be worth it.
    ur reader: Well, the fat bit is due to rehab. :) I ballooned up to 85 kg while in there coz there’s nothing much to do except to eat…so I eat.
    The dark skin is due to several deep sea fishing trips I went to, and I’m still waiting for it to lighten up. It’s not very easy as I’ve come to notice…takes up to a year, perhaps more, of avoiding the sun for it to go back to the original shade.
    Thanks for the support, my friend. :)
    DeV|LisH: I’m told that it can be more than a little taxing on the marriage when kids come into the picture…who’s turn is it to wake up at 3 am in the morning to change the diapers? A lot of sacrifices going on there. One of my recently married coworkers is seriously sleep deprived (we call him Garfield due to his permanent droopy eyes) from taking care of his new born. He says it’s all worth it though and I believe him.
    That said, I know someone who doesn’t take care of her kids at all. Zero maternal instinct. That kinda scares me. All sorts of people huh?
    jess: I love babies but I’m kinda scared about handling them…their heads are so droopy and you have to support their necks. There’s this soft spot at the top of the skull too and I’m really concerned I’ll damage the fragile little one.
    Rufus: I know what you mean. I think we’ll manage to sacrifice for family and kids though. It’s how I was brought up anyway. My parents worked their ass off to send us overseas for our education. I’ll do the same for my kids.

  13. I had a bridal shower experience few weeks ago. Yesterday, a bachelorette party. Hehe… I wonder when I will have the chance to experience the baby shower.
    Shame to say, I can handle foods well, but handling a baby, I will be the most clumsy person.

  14. Settle down and have kids running about? Good idea…
    But won’t you be worried that your kids may end up become some ‘crazy dude’ like you (who enjoy in drugs testing, tattoo n preicing all their body parts)? Like father like son… Or instead you will encourage them to try these ‘cool stuff’ out, who know.
    If you have pretty daughter, have you ever think of her safety since many horny/itchy guys or womaniser again, like you :P) may like to flirt around her. they may took her photos and uplaod on their blogs?

  15. fish fish: Me too…have been thinking about marriage and babies and all that recently, especially with all my ex-classmates getting hitched.
    Yeah, I’m a little apprehensive about handling babies as well. Too fragile lah.
    Wilson: Hmm…Wilson, that’s a very good point you raised there. I have been thinking about that too.
    If it’s a boy and he’s experimenting with drugs (tattoos and piercings are okay with me) I would tell him about my experience and the lowest point of my life when I was addicted to drugs really badly. I will be there for him like my father was for me. I won’t scold him or anything coz that would only alienate him. I want to be his friend, not his father. I’ll try to advise him not to but if he’s really interested in experimenting with drugs, I will give him reading material about how to be safe about it and when to know the signs of dependency and hope he’s smart and mature enough to be better than his dad (me).
    If it’s a girl, I’ll tell him how guys are and how all of them will say all the nice things you want to hear just so they can fuck you. I’ll tell her I was like that too, and advice her to be REALLY sure that he’s the one before having sex. I will teach her about STI’s and safe sex and condom use and all that before puberty. Above all, I will let her know that she can always talk to me about these things without fear of me scolding her or judging her. I’m not against premarital sex but I want her to be sure her boyfriend is the one she’s comfortable and SURE about losing her virginity to.
    About her photo on blogs, I don’t mind at all. I guess I look at certain things differently, it’s okay with me. Unless you’re talking about nude/explicit sex photos…I will be telling her about how guys lower your defences until you think it’s okay and/or normal for filming during intimate moments. Teach her about hidden spycams and be really sure the guy is who she thinks he is.
    But if all else fails. it’s still okay with me. Just coz her photo appears on the net doesn’t mean I don’t love her and it doesn’t mean no one else will love her. These things happen to the best of us. Shit happens, just deal with it and let it go. It’s like the Serenity Prayer:
    God, grand me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change
    Courage, to change the things I can, and
    Wisdom to know the difference.
    :)

  16. HB: Completely agree! hahaha sometimes some ppl totally didn’t take care of their kids at all. But i do belif in equal sharing of task la. I mean i’m sure we all wouldn’t have the heart of seeing your partner the only one taking care of ur kid rite?
    Just wish more caring parents in time to come. haha But i do belif your friend garfield saying that it’s worth it. i’m sure he mean it. Just like how our parent always said it’s worth it taking care of us last time.

  17. Wow, so touch reading your reply… You are such a good daddy. Bravo. Quick go search a partner & breed more offsprings liau…

  18. DeV|LisH: Indeed! That was the way I was brought up too. My dad and mom takes turns with the chores around the house. It can be more than a little taxing for just one person to be handling that.
    Plus, there’s the bonding issue – most people don’t bond with their father coz the dad never spends time with them. I don’t want that to happen to me.
    wilson: Haha! I’m hoping to. Got any nice girls to introduce me to? ;)

  19. Hi Huai Bin,
    Would appreciate the help if you could pass me Lisa’s contact no. She was my ex-unimate whom I lost touch two years back or maybe more. Or if u do contact her pls pass her my no. 0168878110 beverly@minyen.
    Regards,
    Min Yen

  20. beverly: I lost her number too coz I lost my cell phone two weekends ago in Miri. I will get it again and pass it to you. Will ask her on Friendster tonight.

  21. Can I just say what a relief to find someone who actually knows what theyre talking about on the internet. You definitely know how to bring an issue to light and make it important. More people need to read this and understand this side of the story. I cant believe youre not more popular because you definitely have the gift.

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