I have been neglecting my comments as of late due to the impending move to KL and was delighted to see a comment from a very, very old friend. We’ve known each other for more than 10 years and he’s one of my best friends. I have been searching for him ever since I got out of rehabilitation – he’s one of the nicest guys you’ll ever meet.
Heck, even my dad loves him, he invited the both of us to his wedding reception and was the only one who came regularly (every single day!) while I was hospitalized in SGH for a week. He comes from the old skool heng tai (brotherhood) school of thought and has always been around when I needed his help.
He heard I was hauled into rehab from a mutual friend and only knew I came out when another friend told him my blog is back online. I haven’t seen him since 2006, but old friends are like comfortable clothes, it just feels good when you get back together again, and it’s just like old times.
I had dinner with him and his wife last night and he hasn’t changed much. I admire him for his jovial attitude towards everything. Despite being embroiled in legislative issues and non-revenue generating operations, he’s always one to laugh generously and that’s something I can learn from.
Lung, if you’re reading this, you the man. Cheers buddy!
Much (heterosexual) love.
Totally agree…..they are the kind of friends that you can meet years down the line, and pick up where you left off….like it was just yesterday that you saw each other….. sigh 🙂
HB, Hope when the day come you get married do not be like most husbands. My husband try to and did made me never to contact my friends. Now lost contact with all. He still got his old friends and try to make me be nice to them yet not mine now none.
His father was the same with his wife too and she became an antisocial person who care to stay at home. Many husbands became selfish and do not want wifes go out at time her own friends.
HB, Hope when the day come you get married do not be like most husbands. My husband try to and did made me never to contact my friends. Now lost contact with all. He still got his old friends and try to make me be nice to them yet not mine now none.
His father was the same with his wife too and she became an antisocial person who care to stay at home. Many husbands became selfish and do not want wifes go out at time her own friends.
Sorry to hear of your life. This happen to my mother too from my late father. He want her to care for family and him and home no outside life at all. She told me used to have lot of friends goes back to schooldays and college. At my late father’s funeral all his friends there none at all from mother.
Now she live lonely life since children all grown up and life of their own. My aunts told me she used to be a great ballroom dancer and many other things now some non socialble person.
When I do marry my husband will not do this to me for I will tell him he very selfish person.
HB dude, Glad you still keep in contact with friends. Readed other bloggers comments and very sorry for their mothers. My parents are American Born Chinese and have very socialable agendas each. Parents friends together in tennis, golf, bowling and ballroom dancing . Lot of weddings to attend.
When I do marry one day I would like to be like my parents .
HB, Reading your other entries I do not use the past to judge a person. What and who they are now is important. Past may be bad for some people who try to change in present and for future. You are now a better person with a bright future ahead of you.
Glad you still keep in contact with old friends. How many friends live in KL or near by for you to keep in touch? Most of my friends are married and spend time now with husbands which is understandable but try be in touch.
It wonderful you have many friends and still see them off and on. Most Chinese couples change when married. Husband forbid wife to see her friends or keep in contact with them. My mom was like that which sometime sad for her.
My father is Northern Chinese so he alway sold her for trying to visit friends too. HB, do not be selfish to your future wife and make her happy and she will do the same for you.
It wonderful you have many friends and still see them off and on. Most Chinese couples change when married. Husband forbid wife to see her friends or keep in contact with them. My mom was like that which sometime sad for her.
My father is Northern Chinese so he alway scold her for trying to visit friends too. HB, do not be selfish to your future wife and make her happy and she will do the same for you.
Friends like that are few and far between. Treasure and cherish them your whole life through. Most so-called friends only want to USE and ABUSE you…and relatives likewise! With friends like Ah Lung, “blood is thicker than water” definitely is no gospel truth.