10 Things I Find Attractive

This is currently the #1 trending topic on Twitter and I figured I’ll do the blog version of #10ThingsIFindAttractive

nice eyes

1. Nice eyes
It’s the window to the soul and all that. It’s the very first thing I notice about a girl actually. I look at the face and catch the eyes. I’m a sucker for nice eyes. I don’t have a particular type that I like – I don’t mind Occidental eyelids as long as it looks good. Bright and intelligent is the look I’m after – it says a lot about the person looking out from them.

2. Filial piety
I know it’s weird to include this in the list but hey, you were raised with certain values and you…well, value those values above all others. Nature vs nurture, this being nurture. I like someone who respects their family (if any). I’m a meet-the-family kind of guy and usually (means more than 50% – would put a higher figure but I don’t know if I can back it up smirk) their parents like me. I’ll like to raise a family with the same values – not the old skool MY WORD IS LAW version (au contraire) but one of mutual respect.

You want to know your children have your back, just as you’re there for your parents and this is a kind of thing that can only be pulled off with both parents believing in the same ideals.

3. Nice legs
Hey, what can I say? You know the question that goes “tits or ass”? I’m neither. I’m a leg person. I like nice legs. It’s what turns me on. I honestly don’t really care for breasts – my brain is just not wired like that, but legs…now that’s a whole different matter. smirk


4. Thinks for herself
This is quite important as I abhor sheeple. I don’t like people who’s all cliquey and can’t think for themselves and follows the herd. Nope, not even if you’re the leader of the clique. I have nothing but contempt for group think.

Intelligence also goes into here. It’s either-or – someone who thinks for herself MUST be intelligent. It’s not a slippery slope argument, it just is. I love intelligence – it’s the smart ones that always attracts me.

5. Humor
I don’t need a comedian in my life. By humor, I don’t mean someone who cracks jokes every single day (that would be rather annoying). Humor is just perspective – a way of looking at our fucked up lives, shrugging and saying “Hey, it is what it is” with a wry grin.

In other words, someone who can still be upbeat in spite of all the shit life has thrown at you. Example:

Me: Fuck man, I’ve got liver cirrhosis.
Her: What song do you want me to play at your funeral?

Dark humor is fine, as long as you know she loves you and cares about you deep down. Devastated even, but still game for a final hurrah – a trip around the world in the last 3 months of your life.

6. Honesty
I once had an ex-girlfriend who told me something rather shocking. Verbatim:

Her: Huai Bin, we need to talk. I have something to tell you.
Me: What is it?
Her: You remember the Dormicum I took yesterday?
Me: How could I forget? I told you not to, coz you’re drinking after that.
Her: Well…I did and I ended up in a hotel room with this guy. I honestly can’t remember if we had sex. I think we might have but I’m not sure.

You know what? I forgave her for that. She was honest enough to want a relationship without lies and living with that guilt and I admired her for that. She considered hiding it from me but ended up choosing to tell me after a day. It was the bravest thing I’ve seen someone do as I know that she really loved me at that time and vice versa.

(after the initial shock and feelings of betrayal have passed)

Me: You did wear a condom right?
Her: I can’t remember but I’m pretty sure the guy would.

See: Dark humor. It really makes a relationship last.

7. Public displays of affection
I’m one of the people who likes it. Seriously, it warms my heart to see couples in their old age holding hands. I’m not talking about hand snaking into flies and groping under skirts – not the “Get a fucking room” kind of PDA but a more subdued, constant touch like holding hands, leaning into me in a cinema etc.

8. Straight hair
I can’t explain it. I just don’t like curly hair – the texture isn’t for me. It’s just a quirk of mine, just like I don’t like too much makeup on a girl.

I have a slight inclination towards long hair but have seen girls with short hair that looks awesome too. Just as long as it’s straight.

9. Caring
This shouldn’t even be in the list. It’s a no-brainer. Everyone likes to feel cared for, even the toughest Neanderthal back in the days would probably grunt in agreement. The opposite can manifest – fake and “routine” deals like saying “How was your day, honey?” without meaning it.

(and not wanting to hear the answer)

I’ll go for a more sincere understanding that we care about each other any day.

loving kindness

10. Kindness
Isn’t this the same as caring? No, kindness is a way of life. It’s about forgiving and forgetting the small stuff (and even some of the big ones).

It’s what keeps you going when all the serotonin excitement has gone out of your relationship and you’ve settled into a more comfortable dopamine – oxytocin long term relationship.

It also helps if you break up – you don’t have a vengeful and angry ex girlfriend on your ass threatening to castrate you with a rusty butter knife. smirk

Hey, always better to remain friends right? 🙂

What are the things you find attractive in the opposite (or same, if you swing that way) sex?

minishorts grills sixthseal.com Part Deux

Here’s the questions from minishorts [minishorts.net]:

minishorts phallic theme yes i would fuck him

1 1/2 years down the road, and the new questions are:

1. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be and why?

I’m rather impulsive by nature, and while I wouldn’t like to change
that, I’m told that it should be taken down a peg or two. I’m inclined
to agree, except I kinda like myself the way I am. 😉

2. If you could choose to assassinate someone, anyone, who would it be, why him/her and how would you do it?

Shhh…I’m not supposed to tell, that would be premeditated homicide. :p

3. As a supreme being nearing the borders (if you’re not
already there) of blogtopia, how do you view the current waves in the
blogosphere (Malaysia, mostly)?

I think its great that a lot of Malaysians are starting to take up
blogging now – we’re starting to see a lot of different weblogs from
all sorts of people. I’m sure there’s an audience for all of them.

4. Lessay you’ve been stranded on this island for two
months, and your only friend there is this HOT HOT Brad Pitt lookalike
with Matt McConaughey’s body, and he looks uber shaggable (if you’re a
girl of course). Thing is, you’ve been deprived for hell of a long time
and would be great to feel some muscles clench about you… so would
you, you know… fuck the dude?

Hmm…I am hesitant to linger too much on the question and let the
scenario play out in my mind. I’m afraid of what the answer will be. 😉


5. Do you believe in Michael Jackson?


The first time I did this meme was here [sixthseal.com] and here [castitas.com]. I haven’t come clean about veritas then. 🙂


I’ve been pretty busy with my assignments this week. There’s just
one final one to finish up this weekend. Yay! Go me! =D I’m taking a
break tonight though, took a nap this afternoon and it refreshed me.
Okay, I haven’t done the Friday Five [fridayfive.org] for a while now, so here goes:

Apr 11, 2003

Answer the following five questions in your weblog or journal. Make
sure you leave a comment here with a link to your post or just leave
your answers in the comments section.

1. What was the first band you saw in concert?
Korn. It was 1996 and they were doing their Life is Peachy tour. This was in Christchurch, NZ.

2. Who is your favorite artist/band now?
Hmm…if I had to choose one I’ll say NOFX. I like the Fat Wreck Chords
compilations too, that’s the bands that are under Fat Mike’s label.

3. What’s your favorite song?
I have a lot of favorite songs. I’m listening to 1200 Micrograms –
Mescaline now and the Fear & Loathing in Las Vegas soundbites are
sounding really good. Cheesy, but good.

4. If you could play any instrument, what would it be?

5. If you could meet any musical icon (past or present), who would it be and why?
I can’t think of one…music is ephemeral…fleeting…kinda like life in that sense.

Okay, that’s it from me. I’m going to get some dinner now. 🙂

Putting it bluntly (haha)

Ellen Feiss is hot. I only knew about
this meme today. That translates to a two month lag between the propagation of the meme and the
time I hear about it. I heard about the All Your Base and Mahir one several days after they
become popular and now I have to resort to hearing about Feiss from The Age
[theage.com.au] of all places. Alas, I have been out of the scene indeed.

Anyway, I heard this Indian couple arguing on the shuttle while on my way back home today. They
were sitting beside me and talking so voluminously that the whole shuttle bus were exposed to their
quandary. It seems that the boyfriend was tardy in introducing his girlfriend to his project group
mates. Allegedly the girlfriend “finished photocopying half the fucking book” before the boyfriend
thought to introduce her. Good thing he didn’t introduce her as only a friend because she sweared
she “will knock you down there and there if you introduced me as your friend”. I could see several
other people in the bus making minute changes like shifting their seating subtly and casually
removing their headphones to maximize their auditory bandwidth.

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