Guide to taking photos of girls

xx target

I have received a few requests to compile a general list of the techniques (also known as skillz, mojo) I use to create content for my XX Chromosome entry. It has come to my attention that a lot of my readers are curious pertaining my methods of approaching and persuading a female (see synonym chicks, girls) to pose for a photograph to appear on

The Guide to XX Chromosome posts

Approach a.k.a. Target acquisition

target aquired

This is a very important, and often overlooked aspect of taking photos with strangers, especially girls. Your approach is key, since it’s the first impression you make. It helps if you don’t look like a stereotypical horny old man or gangster but even if you look like one, there are several disarming methods that can be applied.


A smile shows your friendly intent and Smashing Pumpkins sang “disarm me with a smile” for a reason.



Look like it’s the most natural thing in the world to be asking for, without being overconfident, pushy, or overbearing. It’s fine to be friendly, but it’s not okay to be assertive in situations like this.

Eye contact

Also related to confidence, always make and maintain eye contact when you see someone you want to put in the XX Chromosome category. Never break eye contact first, it’s one of the rules of dating and also a cardinal rule in doing this. It makes you look unsure, shy, and even weak, not particularly attractive traits for a male.



I tend to introduce myself first, touching the shoulder (the back and arms are fine too, but not other areas) to get the person’s attention if she has broken eye contact. I say something along the lines of “Hello, I’m Huai Bin, and I like the dress/uniform/shirt etc you’re wearing. You mind if I take a photo of you?”

chiew fong

It is important not to give misleading statements or potential minefields e.g. “I like you” but go for the non-animated stuff e.g. clothes, hair, eyes etc. I noticed that I have never gotten a “No” for an answer if I have already pulled out my digicam. It’s this thing about people and handshakes – it’s like how you never see someone NOT shake your hand when you’ve already offered it. It’s something of an automatic gesture.

Lead in


Take one or two photos of the girl and then grab a bystander and tell the girl something along the lines of “Hang on a second, I want to take a photo with you too” and give your digicam to a passerby and start giving instruction on how to take shots. All you have to do now is to stand next to the girl, put your arm around her shoulder (optional) and pose for a photograph.


This happens, I’ve had girls says “I really don’t like taking photographs coz I look ugly in them” or something along that line. That’s not a straight out rejection, the model just needs some convincing, so say something complimentary like “I think you look great, let’s see how the shot comes out”. Most of the time, they agree.

I’ve also experienced one or two straight rejections. The thing to do is to take it in stride. Perhaps she’s had a bad day, is stressed out or just had an argument with her boyfriend. Don’t take it personally. Smile, thank her, and move on. She might be receptive the next time. Always be polite, and chill out, it happens to the best of us. πŸ™‚


dining xx

If you’re single and unattached and you see a lone diner that’s to your liking, sit down and make conversation. Who knows what it may lead into? You’ve gotta eat anyway, so might as well talk to someone while you’re at it. Make the most of every day, live it like it’s your very last.

Cheers from and thanks for reading!

Happy Hunting! πŸ˜‰

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26 thoughts on “Guide to taking photos of girls”

  1. Dude, that’s pretty damn good, smooth…notice she’s got a ring.
    My two bits to share with your hunting readers: notice her body language is in a closed position, hands in pocket, folded arms, defensive cross, meaning she’s just only interested in taking picture at this point in time. Boys, you can always turn thing around. For starter, with a genuine smile and slight nod of your head, rephrase β€œYou mind if I take a photo of you? to: β€œ You don’t mind if I take a photo of you, right? β€œ. It’s the oldest reverse psychological trick that works well. Besides never lose eye contact, when you talk to a lady, be confident, use the right speech, correct voicing, and slightly lean towards her, maintain an open position, palms up, and make your vulnerable veins on your write visible to her. Eventually she’ll open up and the rest is in your court.
    And of course all girls like guys who are fit and a little muscular, cut down your Kolo Mee / Kam Pua/ Pian Neek and join a gym!

  2. HB, I don’t usually ask when I want to take cute guy photos. They will automatically post for me. LOL
    Next time you post for me ok. All the camwhoring skills you learned from someone hardcore.

  3. hi, just started to read your blog. hey, u not intro this girl? she look sweet and nice, i like this kind of girl. =)

  4. oh wait! how can you touch her if u didn’t know her..
    im a guy, but honestly i don’t like people touching me without knowing each other.

  5. ha ha ha, i dun wan pics… any guide to hook up with chicks? ha ha…. 2nded arthur’s comment!!!

  6. STP, the entire post i laugh out at the lady at the corner, she’s really farni!!! all stuffed w food!!
    HB u should take foto of her instead!!
    From my observation of him approaching girls to take foto, he is really straight forward, and the smile he gives, can make the girl die on his hand. haahaha.. he is qualified *handsome* enough to flirt around, and girls normally won’t say “TAK NAK”. kakaka… Imagine if you look like weirdo, do u think girls wanna take pic w u? Run no life d…

  7. Hmmmm…I wonder if you ever tell them that their photos will be featured on your blog and if they do know that, I wonder if they will react differently…

  8. nicksuneo: It’s fun to take up bird watching and photography. πŸ˜‰
    Choonie: You don’t need a guide for that! Babies are naturally curious and the others are inanimate creatures. πŸ™‚
    e: Nice one, my friend. Word. I know what you mean about body language and all that, but sometimes it’s coz the girl is uncomfortable (and not because of you, but of being in an unusual situation e.g. photographed like a model in public) or just unused to it.
    Hey, I didn’t even notice the ring! I never notice stuff like this.
    Skwermy: Haha! 8 more days Skwermy. πŸ™‚
    nkwai: Hmm…I’ve never had a girl freak out on me before. I don’t know though, I wouldn’t mind if a stranger comes up to me and asks to take my photo. I’ll be happy to comply, but maybe that’s just me.
    fish fish: You’re a girl so these things are naturally easier for you. I wrote this guide for guys.
    No problem, pose for you next time, nude also can. πŸ˜‰
    suituapui: Hey, you have a daughter, right? πŸ˜‰
    Thank you, much appreciated, coming from a father. Haha!
    cbenc12: Thanks! Hmm…XY Chromosome doesn’t need a guide. Guys tend to be more relaxed and easy going about these things.
    sylvia: Thanks Sylvia! πŸ™‚
    Appreciate the kind comments.
    Darren: Yeah, hope it’ll be of use – street photography is fun, photography like these is even more so. πŸ™‚
    xSean: I don’t know her well enough but she gave me a good impression. πŸ™‚
    wilson: Ever hear of Rohypnol? GHB? πŸ˜‰
    I’m kidding! Seriously, that’s way against my principals. Getting girls to bed isn’t rocket science but I don’t sleep around so I’m not qualified to write a guide about that.
    Clare: You’ve just never seen me in work attire. πŸ˜‰
    r.p: It’s more of a gentle pressure on the shoulder to get attention. Don’t pat or use excessive force, that can be interpreted as an aggressive intent. I don’t mind people touching me except when I’ve had too much coffee. I can jump if surprised from behind when the caffeine rush is strong.
    clementwpy: Hook up as in date or hook up as in sex? I can compile a guide as to how to meet girls but not the latter. πŸ™‚
    suituapui: Amazing eye for detail, my friend. I didn’t even notice.
    goolooloo: Thank you very, very much tau keh nio. Now, I can’t sleep and I really need rest coz I drank too much last night. :p
    Yeah, I’m kinda straight to the point but still polite and friendly when I do that, as you’ve seen when you’re with me.
    Hey, I don’t flirt lah, I’m just naturally friendly. πŸ˜‰
    ;): Yeah, I do, usually. I told this one I’m putting her on my blog and she said it’s okay but not to use her real name so I didn’t even put a name. πŸ™‚

  9. I arrived a little late, but…..
    Very informative, and I can see why you have no shortage of the lovely ladies πŸ˜‰

  10. jessy: Well, of girls. It’s easier to take photos of guys. Much easier. πŸ™‚
    Dr. Pepsi: Thanks, buddy! πŸ™‚
    I have been having an abundance of the blessing of the Lord in that area of my life lately. Hallelujah! πŸ˜‰

  11. eh there are some men who are camera shy okay! hehe maybe you could help compile a how-to on convincing those of the XY chromosome group take pictures.

  12. Irene:
    Guide to taking photos of guys
    1. Go up to guy
    2. Smile
    3. Flirt
    4. Take photo
    Girls have it EASY, I’m telling you. πŸ™‚

  13. Lainie: Eh? You lost me there. What MCD? This isn’t the one you went to, this is the 24 hour KFC – you went to the one to the left, a little down the road. There’s only one McDonald’s in Sibu. You probably walked through here and turned left and got to the Central Market. πŸ™‚

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